Reference #27: What Got You Here Won't Get You There
Before speaking, ask "is it worth it?". You'll often find the answer is "no".
Consider not just "what's in it for me?", but "what's in it for them?". In many cases, instead of speaking your thoughts on an idea, comment, or a particular piece of feedback, you can default to "thank you".
Goldsmith. What Got You Here Won't Get You There, 2008. (151)